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But how do you do it while living with them? Can't leave.
A return to sender spell worked for me
They can make their life fall apart all on their own. My covert narcissist ex thought his life was the worst ever. He even said that the weather was only bad on his days off 😂
Until now, I didn't find any fault in your great work. revenge is not something I would want to practice. I womder what moved you to highlight this exercise? Could we maybe have something on how to have conversation with family and common friends who find the narcissist "so charming" and "hope one doesn't mind if we'll still invite him for Sunday lunch" "buy him a Christmas present" and basically showing me me that he is still a treasured part of the family but have no questions on how I'm trying to reassemble the pieces of my life and functioning f.e.just driving a car, renting my own apartment and going to work without panic attacks or handling them as well as possible…. rant, rant, rant, rambling ramble rant
What if the narc ex make a lot of false reports against you and you have to take them to
Court all the time ?😅
WHEN CROWS ARE PECKING ON THE BACK OF THE EAGLES NECK HE CLIMBS HIGHER AND HIGHER AND HIGHER AND THE CROW CANNOT HANG ON OR HANDLE IT AND DROPS OFF COMPLETELY SPENT AND CAN SLAM TO THE GROUND
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That's exactly what I've been doing.
The best revenge is not to be like your enemy –
Marcus Aurelius
Can you let Rebecca Zung in on why "faking it" is Never a good idea.
Thanks!
worst part when they do the mirroring they will still blame it. stop using narc and empathy in same sentence, again, the "empathy" they have is only on themselves. i just wanted him to freaking pay his dept made for him (in my case), and initially i didn't want that either, but after having to resign, and him and his family not taking responsibility, made it worse. his father wanted to force marry me with him…and don't let me get started again about his mother.
sometimes i write to his brother, that threatened me, letting him now he does not deserve anything of what he has. human traffickers that point their fingers at other human traffickers and blame the ones they had trafficked. what a world we live in…
You are right about that there so Nasty decusting gross theft stds misarey nothing
So true
Why take revenge, why not help them? You keep avoiding this topic.
I dont want revenge. I want to forget i ever new him and hopefully find myself again start living instead of just exsisting
If you give them what they gave you, then it gives them the victim fuel they crave.
You go Richie!
Absolutely
This man is great
Bring best friends , with as it turns out, with this narcissistic person nearly killed me from stress and took everything I have lived away
I am back
i do not want revenge! i just want to feel free and at peace for once in my life.
Do not even try to get revenge on a Narc. Even in doing that, you’re giving him/her exactly what they want.
Sorry, but the narcissist that is harassing me is a client where I work in a retirement facility, and I do public presentations there. I am too old to quit and get another job and I need the money. I am trapped and I can't just ignore someone who's up in my face in public screaming at me, telling everybody it's my fault and that I deserve this. Solve THAT one tough guy.
True, he loves it when I'm so sad and going against my soul.
They will know & they will feel because they energetically & emotionally connected to you, to your system. That's why we cant fake these things. It's pure survival with them. Trauma bond = enmeshment with your system. They know that by triggering you, doing the hot & cold game then manipulate people into not leaving & giving their power away to them, hooking into our deepest pain, you wont be as strong as you'd like to move on. When you heal, smoking mirrors, programs & beliefs, fear, wounding dissolve/heal/change and they lose their hook + cant access your energy/system easily until one day, the door changed his lock & the key doesn't work anymore. Healing is the key ❤
Processing grief is essential to recover
Exactly ❤
that’s golden thankyou
Its sad they make you do this
That, or reveal them in their personal and professional lives in such an irrefutable way that they can't possibly spin against you. But then when you need to watch out for their vengeance.
This is like gold! I needed to hear this. Thanks.
Thank you Richard.
You’re Exactly right 100%! I did it all done ✅ and it works I got me back now and love me and nurture me after I went NO contact with all the Narcs the ex narc and his narc family and my narc family. It’s just me now and my kids n grand kids and friends. Every single encounter with those narcs was trouble and trap setting. Horrific, eg when we sold our house the ex and me the two narc sisters called the police to say I’m mad so I wouldn’t get my share of the sale that’s how jealous they were etc etc very heavy legal traps. They will never see me again that’s the price they can now pay for all the abuse they gave me.
Narcissists brains dwells on trap setting, sexual deviance, gossip, not education or reading or researching topics of interest. Their just cunning and conniving souls. Stay away forever run and don’t look back ever!
All well and good, but some narcissists hold a woman hostage with threats of violence, shaming, accusing, then love-bombing them. The woman might be physically fragile, not have her own secure resources, need a “caretaker,” have had an abusive childhood and the narcissist feels like all the love she’s ever had. I know someone like this, a close neighbor. I watch with dismay as her narcissistic boyfriend wears her down. And when others try to help she resists. Sometimes she calls the police on him but always capitulates and takes him back. It’s an extreme situation of co-dependency that isolates her from others who would like to help but feel helpless.
No contact. They're going to take anything in your life that isn't yours. The rest…love and keep those people they're the ones that matter. Narcs have their snear campaign but it's only clearing out what you were wasting your energy on. Nothing is better than peace and healing.
I'm glad you mentioned the grieving. It is hard. My mum moved across country and we haven't spoken 2 yrs now. God fills up my void and I try hard not to look backwards but look forwards.
Thank you for sharing this. Yup I figured out we don't think or feel things in the same way.
Yes they can not be in your light any longer
Thats not revenge. They dont give a fck, deal with it
Indifference is the key.
The opposite of love IS NOT HATE, it is INDIFFERENCE.
We win by walking away.
Relearn our value according to OURSELVES and any support network if we happen to have any.
We have to detox from a dangerous addictive drug.
Most drugs are ultimately poisonous, THEY WILL KILL US sooner or later.
Believe what our animal brain is telling you about the danger that you're in.
It's millions of years old and it understands when we are IN DANGER.
We are being hunted by a dangerous breed of predator.
NOT because we are weak but because we are generous of ourselves.
Stop giving it away and start giving it to OURSELVES.
These predators train themselves from the moment when they realise what they are and start HUNTING people.
They feed on us by sucking every drop of goodness within us until we are dried up and dead and we NEED that for ourselves.
We worked hard for that essence to nourish yourself not for some toxic parasite take it from you.
Don't let scum win.
With Deep Gratitude! ! !❤⚜️❤
Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤
No they're not we are smarter than them n I'm proof of that he couldn't stand my plan for him. I ghosted him n once I returned he was so happy to hear n see me n when asked why I had left I told him I had brace myself for this situation and figured out who n what you are. He didn't understand n was n still is confused. I ghosted him again to put the pieces together and after I did I returned n had him loosing his mind he couldn't make sense of me leaving him again and I was quiet and very subtle he couldn't stand it n the mask starting coming off more n more n I tried to make him choose he couldn't do I choose for him n let for good now he's got flying monkeys trying to keep up with me since I changed my number and gotten off social media good luck cause I asked him good like I still wanted him
I don't want revenge. I just want to stop being in pain all the time. If I'm on the brink they always feel that, they know my limit, like a stretched hairband, and they pull back, become 'kind' and 'normal', so I'm always the villain. I'm always disrespectful and mean. All I know is I'm tired beyond what I've ever experienced. I pay the bills, I just want to be at peace. I don't even know who I am anymore.
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Do you know…. How many times he has said “you’re not as smart as you think you are” to me!!!!!